Wednesday, 11 June 2014


After several years of using 'coping strategies' to deal with a declining relationship, it can take time to adjust to being natural once that relationship has ended.

This can mean being comfortable once again with using words or phrases that used to trigger a negative or unwanted reaction, being able to finally send private emails knowing they're no longer all being read by a 3rd party, or allowing yourself to relax when out with friends knowing you won't get the inevitable texts or face the Spanish Inquisition when you get back home.

Unlearning old habits may well take weeks, months or even years in extreme cases, but if you can try to let go and relax, and just be yourself, you'll soon find that your true personality will eventually shine through. You just have to let it.